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Outside of the bedroom and home, I and my wife lead relatively normal lives; we are both college-educated.  She stays at home with our several children, while I am employed full-time at an often rather demanding job.  I am tall (78 inches) and have some weight (250 pounds) without appearing overweight.  She tells me I am good-looking; I tell her she is clearly biased.

Inside our bedroom, I am extraordinarily kinky.  I love being tightly restrained in any variety of ways.  I love being completely controlled: the more control that my wife takes away from me, the more aroused I become.  I love gags, plugs, sensory deprivation, rope (and lots of it), chains, cuffs, etc.  I also get turned on by humiliation:  being degraded, called dirty names, and even forced to do things most would consider disgusting.  I love being dominated, forced to bend and submit to my wife's will. I get turned on by wearing and being forced to utilize diapers.  While I am not a cross-dresser, I do find wearing female underwear and lingerie erotic.  Although my wife does not permit it, I also find watersports extremely erotic.  I fantasize as well about being forced to wear clothing she has wet, or diapers that she has defecated in.  I enjoy it when my wife forces me to speak or act in certain ways.

I do, however, have limits.  I have no interest in blood- or edge-play.  I find male homosexuality distasteful (and the thought of actually participating in it myself just a bit past that).  Bestiality and pedophilia are disgusting to me.

I have often wondered where exactly the 'norm' is when it comes to sexuality, and how far off of it I am.  I suspect that although as a culture we have become far more open about various deviant sexual practices, it is in fact more common than is reported by the individual participants.  Part of the reason I am composing this blog is curiosity, to see who responds, who has thoughts on such matters.  The larger reason, of course, is because my wife has instructed me to do so, and I comply.